Instead of trying to fictionalize gender, let’s talk about the moments in life when gender feels all too real. Because gender doesn’t feel like drag when you’re a young trans child begging your parents not to cut your hair or not to force you to wear that dress. And gender doesn’t feel like a performance when, for the first time in your life, you feel safe and empowered enough to express yourself in ways that resonate with you, rather than remaining closeted for the benefit of others. And gender doesn’t feel like a construct when you finally find that special person whose body, personality, identity, and energy feels like a perfect fit with yours. Let’s stop trying to deconstruct gender into nonexistence, and instead start celebrating it as inexplicable, varied, profound, and intricate.

Julia Serano (via becomingkeltik)

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Genderqueer Links and Books The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down or copy and paste a list into the default text box). See also Marilyn Roxie’s genderqueer tag on Delicious. If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.      Links: Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs Androgynites UniteAnything But BinaryAsk a Non-BinaryBreak the BinaryLGBTQ AdviceFat Genderqueers!Fuck Yeah Androgyny!Fuck Yeah Bigender!Fuck Yeah GenderlessFuck Yeah Gender Studies!Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!Fuck Yeah, Transitioning GQsthe gender bender agendaThe Gender BookGenderforkrGenderPanicGender QueeriesGenderqueerThe Genderqueer ActivistGenderQueer ConfessionsGenderqueer FashionistaGenderqueer ProblemsGQ MomentsKNOW HomoLGBTQ ConnectionsNeutroisNonbinaryNon-binary ArtistsNonbinary Autistics!Non Binary ConfessionsNon-Binary FolkNon-Opno gender rulesnullgradePractical AndrogynyQueer DictionarySmashing the BinaryspectrumofgendersSTFU BinaristsT.R.A.N.S.Transcending AnatomyTrans*OpinionsTrans* TransgressionsTrans* Tumblr DirectorytransbearsTransFessTRANSPRIDEygender[queer] GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities AndrogynesBigenderBirlsGender Blurgender_fluidGenderqueerGender.queer_FTWGirlfags and GuydykesTransgender Websites and FAQs Androgyny Rarely Asked QuestionsChroanagramCrossdreamersGenderforkGenderologyGenderpediaGenderqueer in the UKGenderQueer RevolutionGender SphereThe Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness InitiativeNonbinary.orgNon-Op: Another Optionpipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender VariancePractical AndrogynyQuestioning TransphobiaT-VoxWe Happy TransWorld Professional Association for Transgender HealthYGender Organizations and Events: Click here for a list Forums and Groups AVEN: Gender DiscussionForum GenderQueer (Russian), Last.fm: Genderqueers GroupLaura’s PlaygroundScarleteen: Gender IssuesSusan’s PlaceTransYadaWhat is Gender? Identity Sites Androgyne OnlineBigenderBi-Gender the Bisexual PartnerGirlFagsNeutrois.com/Neutrois OutpostNeutrois Nonsense Prounouns and Titles Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational TermsFreelance Writing: The History of the Indefinite Singular PronounGender Neutral Pronoun BlogGender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer TitlesGenderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral TitleMIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun UsageWarren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing Articles: Click here for a list Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance Agender EarthwormFacts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary SeahorseGenderqueer ChatGendercast: Our Transmasculine GenderqueeryGender Queeries,Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueerregender: A Different Kind of TranslatorTrans ParrotfishTrans Parrotfish’s Significant Other Education Gender Diversity ProjectGender Spectrum: ResourcesQueer Teaching TipsSafe Schools CoalitionTRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex TopicsTransgender Student RightsTrans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship Sex EdClick here for a list The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available. Social Media Click here for a list of social media with options apart from male and female, as well as scripts to alter options on websites that don’t provide these options by default Fashion and Transitional GearClick here for a list Banner: This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive banner (with flagswithout flags). Designed by nethdugan.      Books:  Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you! Gender Now Coloring Book – Maya Christina Gonzales Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us – Kate Bornstein Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation – Kate Bornstein Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws – Kate Bornstein My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely – Kate Bornstein Books and essays by Ivan Coyote Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity – Alex Drummond GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary – Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity – Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality – Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel Queer Theory, Gender Theory – Riki Anne Wilchins Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender – Riki Anne Wilchins Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) – Laura Erickson-Schroth whatever.odt (free!) – JD O’Meara Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender – Jamie A. Seba That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation – Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men – Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity – Reid Vanderburgh (Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here) Book lists compiled by others: Bibliography of Books Concerning Androgynes and Androgyny Booklist for Trans Youth on Goodreads Genderqueer Chicago on Goodreads
I’ve updated this yet again on site and used the reblog post format that subtlecluster had put up to share it – keep sharing and suggesting more resources that I should include! 

Genderqueer Links and Books

[trigger warning: purposeful misgendering]

ladyatheist:

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thetart:

libertarians-and-stoya:

So I’m being told I’m misgendering an ftm person because I don’t use their preferred pronoun which is them/they. That’s bad grammar and as a grammar nazi I’m getting pissed off.

Hey, asshole? Check yourself.

It looks like someone doesn’t care much about grammar, being a decent person, or making a turkey of themselves for the entire internet.

Tart.

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goddessofcheese:

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genderqueer:

Argentina JUST PASSED a groundbreaking gender identity bill!!!

From now on, people will be able to change the name and gender on their ID without needing psychiatric permission or any body modifications. Furthermore, anyone who does want hormones or surgery will be able to access them for free through the public and private health system.

It was passed unanimously today by the Senate 😀

Holy shit

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